Section 2 (cont.)
The first strategy the author presented was accepting and appreciating our children. The next strategy involves de-escalating a meltdown.
Although this is a temporary solution that can not work to change or modify behavior on a long term sale, it is a powerful strategy to use in the moment. Especially for a meltdown that one is unprepared to deal with.
To de-escalate a meltdown use distraction to "avert the escalations" of behavior and emotions. In younger children this may be as simple as distracting them away from what is upsetting them by showing them a different book or toy, a tv show, or even a hug. With older children you can build upon their interests and change the topic to an area of extreme interest, use humor, or even validate their feelings.
Distractions are a quick fix and provide time to create a plan on how to deal with a behavior. They in themselves are not the solution.
Have you ever used distractions to deal with a meltdown? I know I have. In our house getting dressed to go outside can be a challenging event. I have often placed a mitten on a foot or tried to put a child's boot on my foot in order to distract Crash enough to get out of the "meltdown" cycle and continue on with the dressing activity.
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